1. Have more safe sex
2. Go out and have fun
3. meet more guys
4. don’t give heads
5. do you own thing- try out as many things as possible-writing, art, research, excel, dancing, pole dancing, make money plan, volunteer
6. Stop thinking about guy thing. (the past two weeks that was all i think about. I hated my life and felt incredibly lonely then, I wanted to see my family so bad but i realize now i would not wanna trade my freedom here for anything)
7. No expectation doesnt mean you have to expect the worst.
8. Never reply on anyone. YOU are the person you can rely on. But that doesn’t mean you should not reach out to people when you need help
I should have more safe sex and get it out of my system. Don’t be too serious and have fun. YOU are just 23! You have til 28 to be wild like 5 more years. Only be serious with the right guy. When he is the right one you will know he will let your heart sink.
Justin: I dare you to be alone sometimes. Justin is a great guy and you know it. Mike never responded to my question if we should be exclusive or not. Til this date. Not sure if thats a denial or just that he forgot. I will assume the worst- we are NOT exclusive. I can do and meet who ever the fuck I want.
One the other hand, stay young. Lyft driver told me that a lot of her friends in their 30s have good careers, nice cars and houses, but they aren’t really that happy. They act like they are in their 30s. While she likes to stay young and not settle on one thing. Mike always reiterates that he’s a grown man and my friends are immature, and that students from state are kids. Well, suck it the best thing you can do is to be young at heart and be able to smile/laugh. Also, there are a lot of men out there, according to her, a lot of guys are just not qualified/of low quality. (in terms of personality and composure)
Lyft driver is going to spend a day in the library to work on mixology. She is going to start a blog teaching people how to mix drinks. Her philosophy is that given that technology is so advanced these days everyone can learn anything online. I love her mentality. despite all these, she has a bf for 8 years. That proves that if you are with the right guy you can handle relationship and work together.
After she quit her job as a researcher for 6 years, she tried out different things, such as retail, working at a grocery store, and finally stumbled upon graphic designs and eventually had her own company. She started off posting on craiglist for people who need graphic designs help at a low cost, then business started rolling in. She self-taught everything and her expertise in research definitely helped her out a lot. She learnt her shit althought she joked about not knowing what the hell she was talking about half of the time. She cited the Entrepreneur of Virgin America Richard Branson, most of the time he learned what he needed to know right before he meets with his client. Sounds familiar? Yup just like me. I just need to be informed of what I want to do so I can bullshit it well.
Hard work is crucial for success too. You really need to devote time to work towards your goal. Like the girl from Lyft, she tried to learn what she needs to know WHENEVER SHE HAS TIME. People don’t just sit around and let the thoughts of guys fill up the space in their heads. Also, the guy, david, I met at Les states, he devoted a 1-2 years on the school program that would bring him money. I need to look into etsy too. I need to be a dreamer but a realistic one.
Yesterday I met up with Noah, a couching friend from Norway. We had a really pleasant day together, for the first time without much help from other people I was able to drive around from SDSU to downtown. We took a stroll around seaport village. The weather was beautiful it made everything better. Unfortunately, on my way up to state I almost got into a car accident. Noah was right, I should never say I am not lucky anymore. Thanks to my luck I save $750. Anyways, I met Noah’s friend -Peace. He is the cutest black guy I have ever met. He looks exactly like Will Smith. He has the brightest smile, the one that makes you smile too. You can tell he is a very genuine person, he even invited to Mexico with them. According to Noah, he is in the phase of finding more about himself and he doesn’t do things that don;t make him happy. There are simply so many cool, interesting, and positive people out there. At one point we got into the conversation about fear. Fear, to him, stands for false evidence appearing real. Crazy huh? In the blink of an eye, he was able to drop something so substantial and powerful. I will never forget that. He already has it figured out. I really would love to talk to him about that and be totally inspired. The reason why i don’t think I can become a journalist is the cut-throat competition. (Thats what I thought) According to Peace, though, the reason I am scared that I won’t get there is an illusion. I think I won’t make it because I assume so. Its an illusion because I haven’t really tried yet. God knows what the result would be if I had tried? That’s so true. Fear is an illusion and assumption. A lot of people fear to try but they have never tried and so they will never know if they are going to succeed. Or worse, they will never get what they want. Only a short 10 mins of conversation exhange i was able to pick up the bomb of wisdom from this young fella, who has the sweetest and widest smile in the world.